Drew and Michelle were high school sweethearts who decided to tie the knot! After 8 years of being together, they finally committed to each other and said “I do.” Both Drew and Michelle were madly in love with each other, but for some reason they had had difficulty expressing their love physically. They had both retained their virginity, yet with the perfect opportunity at hand they were unable to capture the way they felt about each other. Many things grew to arouse their interests such as holding hands, kissing, and even embracing with passion and emotion. However, though they tried many times, their physical love had limitations. One day they tried to commit to having sex, so they began drinking themselves to an unstable state of mind. Once they were under the influence they began to act romantically, making aggressive and advancing gestures. Finally, once they had been stripped to the naked body, their ultimate goal had started. However, it wasn’t a happy ending for these two. They had become so over excited and anxious, that once they reached the point of climax, it was they last feeling they ever felt. Both Michelle and Drew had died of heart problems.
This was a story that had been published by Spike TVs “1,000 Ways to Die.” This couple was a special case. Not only had they never had sex, but they weren’t able to experience the emotions or feelings of that level of intimacy. But, what is sex? How is it involved in everyday life? Why does it influence us? Many questions arise about sex, much of which can go unanswered because of the discomfort that it comes along with. Try having the birds and the bees talk with your parents or grandparents and see how comfortable you are while in the hot seat. Or how about the pressure you receive from your friends, knowing that everyone else around you is sexually active. Why aren’t you? Is it because you aren’t normal?
Sex has many meanings: spiritual, a dictionary, and as an action. The spiritual example was created by God for humans to express their love for one another in a physical manner, while being under a sacred marriage. This act was to be done as a form of love. The dictionary defines sex as an act of reproduction between a male and female. Sex as an action can be done for stimulation, reproduction, or terms or employment. Sex can also be defined by the five senses. Sex is seen as something beautiful, a true creation of what God intended for a man and wife. Sex is a sound of eternal belonging and assurance with the beat of a heart sealing the bond. Its unique smell can seduce your will, numbing and robbing you of all logistics. The taste of sex can range from classy to trashy depending on your preference. Its touch is soft and tender, binding the inner soul to a counterpart.
Have you ever heard the term sex sells? Society thrives from sexual advertisements and influences. During an interview, I asked several questions that dealt with pressure, values and morals, experience(s), and their personal feelings. Here is one interviewee’s response:
“I think sex is a form of pleasure. My first kiss was when I first encountered sex. I’ve felt pressure when dealing with sexual encounters, but not always. Sex in society definitely changes a person’s morals because there’s a great temptation and the need to fit in with the rest of the group’s actions. When I was pressured, I felt bad, like I was used because it wasn’t something I wanted to do at that time. I don’t feel I’d be more sexually active if I wasn’t pressured because I don’t feel that there is a “need” to have sex. Things that interest me are kissing, touching, a tall frame, nice smile, education, goals, the ability to care for and comfort me, trustworthiness, responsibility, and a sweet personality. I choose to be abstinent because of STD’s, the risk of pregnancy, I find it worth it to wait for someone.”
Sex has a lot of effects when it is misused. There are risks of infections like chlamydia, warts, HIV/AIDs, syphilis, gonorrhea, HPV, and herpes. Practicing safe sex involves many precautions that can help prevent these diseases, however they often are overlooked because of “the heat of the moment” or the feeling is better without certain contraceptives. Peer pressure is a deep and penetrating influence on kids in school. Many experience the transformations of bodily changes and are now becoming attracted to the opposite sex. Due to the lack of knowledge and education that these kids receive, a vast majority are thrown in to the wild to fend for themselves with their only weapon being first-hand experience. Problems arise such as various infections, relationship abuse, excessive tormenting, pregnancy, and even emotional strain. Society tends to see these adolescents as little more than a parenting problem gone wrong, but when society does turn its back on the young who do they affect. Not only do they cause hardship at home, but it gets carried into the workforce and society’s overall image.
How do we comprehend such a diverse and complex issue, especially when there are so many different variables and aspects to what it has to offer life? Sex is a part of everyday life whether we’re at home, school, even the workforce; it is always craving our attention. We, as members of society, need to be educated in its causes and effects in order to understand how it will relate and influence our lives.
Works Cited
“1,000 Ways to Die.” Spike TV. October 04, 2010.
Torres, Isabel. Personal Interview. 10/20/10
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